Where it all begins

I am not an abuse survivor.


I am not a victim.


I do not identify myself as such.


I am a person who loves life, is confident and knows who they are.  I have journeyed to this place, to becoming this person...via a path that was rocky and flesh tearing and soul wrenching and fruitful.  


Where it all begins is at the start of this path...where the hard part is....where most people, sadly, think their journey is finished.


Many out there need to hear the gory details, because they don't yet understand that they don't matter.


I was married....I was physically abused, I was emotionally abused to the point of suicide, I had children. 


Then I was not physically abused, or emotionally abused.....but I was not free.  My children were safe, I was safe.....but I was not well and those around me suffered....and I continued to suffer.

Welcome to my attempt to blog about what I understand to be the most important phase of recovery from an abusive relationship of any sort.  It is the phase that begins where too many people stop.....at freedom.  Freedom from many of the physical aspects of an abusive relationship often leaves us breathing a sigh of relief and allowing the intoxicating freedom to make us lazy.  Buckle up folks!  There's lots of work to do from here!  My awakening inspired me to help others.  I have been doing so for some time and Suzie Q inspired me to start writing about it too.  Stay tuned for further posts...and be sure to have a mirror with you if you come back.....because in the words of my saviour councillor...  "It's all about you daisy"